From single mom to death doula

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Life has a funny way of leading us down unexpected paths, doesn’t it? As a single mom, I’ve juggled numerous roles over the years, trying to provide for my kids while also finding my own way in the world. 

But amidst the chaos, I realized I’d fallen short in one crucial area: preparing my children for the reality of life – that death is inevitable. It was a tough realization, but it sparked a newfound determination within me to make things right.

So, with a newfound sense of purpose, I delved into a realm many shy away from: death, dying, and grief. It might sound heavy and even a bit morbid, but to me, it’s profoundly human. It’s a part of life we can’t ignore, no matter how hard we try. And instead of shying away from it, I chose to lean in. 

And let me tell you, it’s been one of the most fulfilling journeys I’ve ever embarked on.

I became a Death Doula.

Now, you might be wondering, “What exactly is a Death Doula?” Well, think of us as compassionate companions guiding individuals and their families through life’s final transition. We provide holistic, spiritual, and emotional support during this profound time.

As a Death Doula, I’ve had the privilege of sitting bedside with incredible individuals with their loved ones and collaborating with amazing professionals who share the same passion for supporting our community through life’s most challenging moments. Just last month, we organized a significant event that brought people together to share their experiences and learn from one another. And you know what? It was powerful beyond words.

But for me, one of the most rewarding aspects is the opportunity to open up honest conversations, especially with my children. 

Our kids aren’t shielded from these experiences; in fact, they often grasp their significance more profoundly than we realize. That’s why creating a safe space for them to express their thoughts and feelings about death, dying, and grief is crucial.

Death happens all the time. Take for instance the recent unimaginable news of our local 16-year-old student, Justin Johnson. (My heart continues to go out to the Johnson family as they continue to navigate through this complicated time) 

Our kids need us to create these safe spaces so they can talk about and process this heartbreaking incident. And to talk about the hard topics that surround his death.

And we can start this conversation within our home.

So, whether you’re a parent navigating these conversations or simply seeking support, know that you’re not alone. We’re all in this together, embracing change, following our passions, and never shying away from those tough conversations.

Until next time, my friends. Keep embracing change and nurturing those honest connections.

If you need some extra support, let’s connect.